Sunday, 28 April 2013

10 DO's and DON'T 's WHEN YOU MEET YOUR POTENTIAL MR RIGHT

1. Set your standards. Increase your price. You see, every girl has a price. Some girls its chicken and chip with pepsi,some girls its diamonds...some its serious fasting and prayer. You as a lady need to set your standards. Don't make them too high... You may chase him away. Don't make them too low... You may appear cheap. Carry yourself with poise!!!

2. Don't act so desperate for a serious relationship. Give it time!! All you need is a little patience. Just Go with the flow.

3. Don't give up your cookie. Don't have sex with him. Ladies attach a lot of emotion to sex...well most ladies. To us its the perfect avenue to show intimacy. But men on the other hand, don't see things like that. A man can have sex with a woman he does not love. So what's the hurry? Take your time dear

4.Don't call too often. Don't give too much attention. So he has told you how much he loves you and yes you believe. That's great!! Wonderful actually. But that's still not enough reason to call him every second. Show a little class!!! Let him chase you!

5. Pray about it. God is the most important factor. You have to build your relationship on a solid ground. Invite him to your life, your home, your relationship and let God choose for you.

6. Pay attention to the little signs. Pay attention. His little habits. Can your cope? Has he passed the ideal man test?( To be discussed in latter episodes). Wisdom is profitable to direct.

7. Don't fall for the early display of affection. He just met you and he is professing love! My dear, I'm sure its your beautiful backside he loves, your big bust. Let him see the other parts of you. Your charming personality, your sincere heart, all these interesting things about you. He has to fall in love with all that!!! Because whether you like it or not, you boobs may sag after 3 kids, your ass may no longer be attractive, Your flat tommy will stop being flat. So then, by that time what will he love? Think about it

8. Put your best foot forward. Be positive. Be confident. Be anything but lazy! Be you!

9. Look Good. Always!!! Always... Look good. You don't have to follow the trend. Get something that'll suit your body.

10.Sell yourself. Show him...all you can do. Declare yourself as an asset!!

Olanrewaju toyosi
 Let's talk...maybe!!!
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Saturday, 27 April 2013

15 REASONS WHY HE IS NOT YOUR MR RIGHT

1. He is married. You see,when a man is engaged... He can't be your Mr right. Yes he might be attracted to you. Yes he might provide all your needs. Yes you think you love him. I'm sure he has promised to leave his wife. He must have told you times without number that she is fat,ugly and un-presentable. My dear, don't be fooled. Ask yourself. Why does he prefer to meet you @ hotels and bars? If he is going to leave her... Why can't he leave her before coming to you? Why is it so hard for him to pick your calls when he is @ home?? Dear,You are wasting your time. Of course he will tell you he loves you, YOU HAVE SOMETHING THAT HE WANTS!!! Let's even assume that he does love you and he is serious. I hope you realise that you are trying to ruin some ones home, you are trying to take some ones man,You are trying to steal some ones father... Is it really worth it? Who knows, you might suffer the same fate later. You are beautiful,wonderfully made!!! Why waste it on a man who is totally clueless.

2. He hasn't discovered his purpose. You see, most men are defined by who they are and how much they earn. A man can not see you as a partner if he has not discovered his purpose. You have two options; you either help him discover his purpose or you move to men who have figured out what they really want. The only problem with helping him discover his purpose is that you might stop being his type. Let me give you an instance; you are both in school. Your faithful and loving. You help him achieve his goals. You are always there. He gets a good job and he is successful and then he realises that he can't take you out. You don't speak good English. You know why?! Don't get me wrong. I'm nt saying you can't keep him if you help him grow. I'll tell you...HOW in my next article

3. He doesn't believe nor fear God. Now tell me... Who will be his guardian? Who will he look up to? He doesn't fear God so he believes he can get away with anything. So please tell me... How will he respect you? Whether you believe it or not, its not your 'love' that'll keep the relationship/marriage going. I keep saying it "he has to fear God so that he can love you with the fear of God!

4. He makes you do things he would never let his sister do. I don't think I need to explain further

5. He over depends on you,financially,emotionally etc. Don't get me wrong, you need to be a proverbs 21 woman....virtuous,kind,independent and hard working but c'mon,get rid of that idea that you have to always be the only one providing.

6.He has drug issues

7. He beats you up. You no b punching bag ooo... You are a woman! Yes I know he is always saying sorry and you love him! Mtschw...sidon there make hin kee you!!!

8. He gets jealous unnecessarily. When a man marries you, you become a possession like a chair in his house or his DVD set... Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying he won't value you... You've just become HIS!!! If he was unnecessarily jealous when you were going out...my sister, when una marry abeg no comot for house!!!

9. He's too controlling. Same thing as jealousy. Pay attention to the signs.

10. He doesn't listen to you nor value your opinion. A relationship is about two people... If he doesn't listen to you. My dear, you are not in a relationship

11. He's constantly forcing sex on you. Are you his woman or his lifeless sex toy??

12. He does not share your religious and moral beliefs. This will cause confusion in your family. What will your children do? Who will they follow? A mans god should be his wife's god too.

13. He doesn't protect you. He is not ready to defend you

14. He doesn't profess his love for you. He does not show you that he loves you. PLEASE don't confused Dps and PMs with love. He might use your picture as his DP all the time. It doesn't mean he loves you... For Gods sake, Grow up!!

15. You never disagree nor have arguments. That means somebody is pretending. And if its not you...its HIM! C'mon you are two different people...what do you expect?

Wednesday, 24 April 2013

20 THINGS TO DO WHILE WAITING FOR MR RIGHT...


1.Develop a relationship with God. You need to improve on your spiritual life. This will not only portray you as a good person, it will improve your relationship with your maker.

2.Develop your cooking skills. It is said that the way to a man’s heart is through his tommy. You need to familiarise yourself with the kitchen.

3.Develop your inter relationship with people. You have to learn to be people friendly. Learn how to start conversations and keep conversations going.

4.Create a list of all the qualities you want in your man. If you don’t stand for something, you’ll fall for anything. NB; try as much as possible to create a realistic list. Tall, dark, handsome, rich, God fearing, gentle etc… girl please, do you wanna marry Jesus?

5.Work on yourself. Do daily, weekly, monthly workout. You need to be fit. Understand you shape and work on it.

6.Be who you want to attract. If you want a good man, you have to be a good woman. Do not forget, you are who you attract.

7.Don’t look so desperate. Men can notice these things. Once you place yourself as being desperate, the tables will turn. He will notice this and may take advantage.

8.Be independent. Get a job. Do something with your life. Don’t just sit around waiting for mr right to come and pay all your bills. Please don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying he wont cater for you… but common… the man is not your father.

9.Always look good. Don’t forget that men are attracted by good looks. You need to get his attention with your looks before you can show your charming personality. NB; DON’T OVER DO IT. Tone down on the skimpy outfits. Do not show too much skin. Wear something that will say “I’m ready but not desperate”.

10.Know something about everything. You gatta be smart. Know something about what men like to talk about. Football, cars, sports in general, stock exchange, fashion, hair, music, movies… etc. who knows, mr right might be a movie lover.

11.Love yourself. Love your body, your skin, your attitude, love everything about yourself. Try and forget about your insecurities…

12.Develop self confidence. Self confidence is one of a woman’s best quality. Talk with confidence, walk with confidence… don’t be shy to express yourself. Note that confidence is not arrogance.

13.Carry yourself with poise and charisma. You are a lady. You have to walk like one.

14.Portray yourself has a wife material. You don’t have to say you are a good woman… make people say it for you. Be anything but lazy. You don’t have to fake it… practice makes perfect. Create the impression that you’ll be faithful, loyal and honest.

15.Always wear a smile. Whether you wanna believe it or not, your smile is your best asset. Work on the smile that fits your face. Don’t over do it please. Just learn to smile.

16.Don’t ever talk about your ex. EVER. You don’t wanna create the impression that men use and dump you.

17.Be beautiful. Do all you can to look attractive. Please, wearing make up is not a crime. Buy things that’ll improve your beauty.

18.Understand that you are beautiful as you are. I want you to know that there is somebody for everybody. Its ok to be dark… you don’t really need to bleach. Its ok to be short… just carry yourself with the needed charisma. Its ok to be chubby… just wear things that’ll compliment your shape. Its ok to be skinny… its really ok to be you

19.Be you. You need to understand that you have to be yourself

20.Be sociable. Go out… meet people. Go places… increase your options

My dear, you have to know that not all women will be wives. Determine what you wanna be NOW. He doesn’t have to be rich now… you should learn how to spot potentials. Help him grow. You also need to understand that you have to marry your friend.
Don’t forget to holla… girl talk

OLANREWAJU TOYOSI

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Missmodiva01@gmail.com

Tuesday, 23 April 2013

30 THINGS YOU SHOULD KNOW BEFORE SAYING YES...

1. Beauty attracts men but wisdom keeps them.             

2. Elegance catches men's attention. but intelligence convinces them.

3. Nagging irritates men but 'constructive silence weakens them. 

4. The 'boy' in every man pumps out occasionally, your ability to handle this, is a woman's truest maturity.

5. Men have secret struggles and silent pains. Should you ever find them out exhibit the greatest maturity. 

6. In the long-run your 'words' matters more to a man than your 'looks'... 

7. Earn a man's respect and he will consider you the yard stick 4 all his actions. 
8. Learn to mold the moods of your man. 

9.Men will naturally give u their futures if they can recall your maturity in yesterday's issues...

10. There is nothing like a perfect relationship. No one is perfect... NO ONE!!!! Learn to love your partners imperfection

11. No romance without sacrifice. It can't always be smooth...if it is...RUN!!!

12. Every man has a price. Find out what his price is...pay it!!! While doing that, do not forget that you have to name you standards from day 1. Tell him things you don't want, things you can't cope with. 

13. Don't engage in those random 'trust or love test'... You might loose!!! There is no need to set him up with your friend...my dear, she might shock you

14. Those who cheat and lie before marriage are most likely to continue to do so in marriage. 

15. If he doesn't love or honour God, He can't love or honour you! It is believed that men who fear God will love you with the fear of God.

16. What most lovers mistake for love is actually lust that will not last the test of time.

17. Time is the greatest test of Love...Learn to be patient!

18. The sooner we dump those who cheat and lie the better and happier we would be.

19. You may force a man to go out with you, but you cannot force him to love you.

20. Most men who beat women also cheat. if you are in that kind of situation...RUN!!!!!

21. A baby will not make him stay...don't even think about it!!

22. Never base your relationship on relationship quotes. You need to understand that men are different. You have to find out what works for you!

23. Once a cheater, always a cheater and once a liar, always a liar!!! Don't be fooled...

24. Destroy conceit and deceit or conceit and deceit will ruin you.

25. Wise men do not gossip about women. If he says bad things about his ex all the time, girl, you are in trouble! Because once he's done with you, your Next!!!! 

26. In the first instance, every man who approaches you has considered having sex with you,in his head...You have the power to determine if he stays for long or not! Don't forget- he has to earn the 'cookies'.

27. Never fall in love with a man who does not love you. NB: love grows. It takes time. 

28. The lust for money and sex is the ruin of all relationships. Be independent

29. You do not need money to win the heart of a woman or marry a woman who truly loves you.

30. You can lose all your possessions, but never give up your love

Monday, 15 April 2013

DADDY'S ANGEL........2

"It all started when my mother died!!...I was six years old and if I can remember clearly in primary two! Daddy found it hard to adjust to mums death! According to my grand mother, He loved her with all his heart! The 1st 3 years were ok. Dad and I got along just fine! Things were ok until he decided to bring another woman home! He said they met in one of his official trips to Dublin and that she's a good woman. Dad and aunty chi seemed like they were in love! They looked happy! The problem was that aunty chi dint really like me! She just hated me! My father never married her,I can't even remember him paying her bride price! If you ask me,I'll think all she wanted was my dads money! Fortunately for me, My dad found out about her attitude towards me and he sent her packing!"...she said
   "Wait wait wait!!!"...I cut her story short! "He sent her packing? Wow, that means he really loves you ooo!! Awwww!!! You are very lucky! But my dear, That's still not enough reason to say your daddy is your lover! Yes,I know that dads are usually their daughters first boo but that's not enough! You are a grown woman now! He needs companion too you knw"... I said! " Abeg free this man,Make we chop"... I yelled. I noticed princess wasn't really happy but then I wasn't ready to hear whatever she had to say. I thought about the possibility of princess sleeping with her father but then watin man eye never see?. I am just not ready to loose her nor her fathers money! Call me selfish...or whatever!! Man pikin must to survive! I tried to wipe princess' tears but she stopped me! "Don't you get what I'm trying to say??? Don't you?!"...she screamed and left the room angrily!
"How can she feel pain? How can she act as if its such a big deal?"... I thought to myself. I'm from a family of five. my father is a drunkard. I remember the time my mother was selling rice @ agboju bus stop,Lagos! We had to practically feed from hand to mouth! I can't count the number of CBD officers I had to sleep with to prevent them from chasing my mother away from her stand! You see,life is not fair and I have learnt to take advantage of the oppurtunities that come my way!
 Quickly I ran after her! "Princess!!"... I yelled!! I immediately caught up with her and held her hands! "Am sorry, I just dint want you to feel bad"...I said. She looked @ me and I could see the pain in her eyes! The same pain I felt when officer kanuni rapped me. The same pain I felt every time my father beats my mother Up. Pain!!!! The only feeling I have become too familiar with. "Please let's go inside before everybody starts staring at Us"...I said.
As we got to the room, I pulled her a chair. I knew exactly what she needed! "Daddy started coming to me wen I turned 13. I can still remember the 1st time like it was yesterday. He came to my Room that night and told me he wanted to show me something. He said he would turn me into a real woman. Because he is my father I dint object and things like that were new to me so I had to agree! He asked me to lay on my back and open my legs. I did! But then I got un-comfortable! I remembered the gist onome gave me! How she lost her virginity! It was the same thing daddy wanted me to do. Its not like I dint want to but then it felt weird. He told me to never tell anyone. That it was our little secret. I dint. It went on for years. I began to love it so much that sometimes I went to him. I mean, He promised to never leave me nor place anyone above me"
"HaaaAaaaaaaa!!! Mogbe....princess!!! Your father dis-virgined you and you still have the guts to say it! No wonder!!!!"... I screamed! " No wonder what??? Tell me...No wonder what!!!!"... She asked
TO BE CONTINUED!!!!!!

Wednesday, 10 April 2013

TORN........3

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Its all coming back to me… you are him…I mean…his twin…I screamed.
Hello ma’am, yes its me… doctor wale asked me to surprise you today. Hi, I’m Kenny… wales twin brother. I smiled with so much excitement. “hello dear,its so nice to finally meet you” I said. We hugged and I asked him to come in. “unfortunately, wale isn’t around. He had to go for an emergency”… I explained. “yes am not surprised, that’s his thing”…he said. what can I offer you? I hope you American people can manage our foods and drinks here ooo because I prepared amala and efo elemi meje for you”… I said with so much excitement. “haaaaaa, you are just as he described; beautiful, warm and very homely”. “Don’t flatter me Kenny”… I said. We talked and laughed as I ushered him to the dinning table.
“ola, this is such a lovely meal…wow… I don’t think I have had this in years”…Kenny exclaimed. “thank you dear, I am glad you like it”… I said. Kenny and I instantly clicked. I mean, we became friends instantly. He said he had to relocate to Nigeria because he had to finally seal a deal he has been working on. “I have to meet with the MD/CEO tomorrow, we have a lot to discuss”… he said. I had no idea of what he was talking about but I had to flow in order to save myself the embarrassment. “you are welcome to stay here anytime dear”… then I thought to myself “why I dey talk like say na me get house ooo… person wey get house sef no toast me. I con dey do like madam…haaaaaaaa….”. I saw Kenny off to his room…
We lived together for about 8weeks… wale never for once stopped being so nice to me. At a point, I started wondering if he had feelings for me. If he found me attractive… I just kept wondering. My anxiety was cut short one hot Sunday afternoon. Wale and I returned from church. The service was wonderful. The pastor preached about love. “YOU HAVE TO LOVE ONE ANOTHER… SHOW CARE TO THE NEEDY… GIVE ARMS…” he ended the preaching by saying… hold your neighbor and tell him or her that you love him/her. I felt wales warm hands. He held me and said “ola, I love you”. I know you think I’m over reacting… but I know what I saw. I saw his eyes… his beautiful brown eyes, he stared at me with so much affection. I felt chills run down my spine… I felt it… I felt like he really did love me. On our way home, things were a bit awkward… he dint say a word to me. He just drove the car. When he finally decided to talk, all he said was… I think I’m ready to start bearing taiwo. I looked at him with so much confusion. why? “ why did you decide to change your name in the first place?”… I asked. “it’s a long story and I really don’t wanna talk about it”… he said.
We got home around 3 pm. The traffic in lagos is just crazy. We got in and wale…taiwo asked me to please get food. “I am so hungry ma”… he explained. “ok, give me 5minutes”… I said. I felt very relevant. I really felt like the madam of the house. I walked into the dinning room with taiwos food. He was topless. All he had on was the Ankara trouser he wore to church. “Shit… is this man really allowed to walk around lagos looking this hot? Is it not against the medical profession to look so hot… I mean, wont the patients feel intimidated with his body”… I thought to myself. Silly thoughts crossed my mind. I wanted to hold him, kiss his six parks. Oh shit… I need to have this man. I stared at him with so much desire… ohhhh lord jesus forgive me for fornicating in my mind on a Sunday. I don’t think he noticed me because he dint even say a word. “Why this man dey purnish me nah”… I thought to myself. “oh dear, this food smells delicious… I cant wait to eat you up… suck you till you come”… pls don’t blame me ooo… that was what I heard… so I decided to ask him again. “what did you say?”… he smiled and said.. “this food smells delicious… I cant wait to eat it”. I was beginning to hear things…
That Sunday marked the beginning of my undying desire for taiwo. I had to have him. Ohhhhhhhhh… I had to. The next morning, he went to work. I also decided to go shopping. I got all the sexy night gowns, dresses and bum shorts. Well, I had to seduce him. He got home around 10:49,I was counting every second. Immediately I heard the car horn, I sprayed my perfume and adjust my bra. “hello dear, how was your day?”… I collected his brief case and turned like I wanted to take it to his room. I dropped the case and pretended it was a mistake. My hip size is 40… yes, I have a big behind. I had to let him get a glimpse of it. I bent slowly as I picked the case. He dint even make any move. He just stood there and stared at me. “thank you dear, you seem happy today… what is the occasion?”… he asked. I thought to myself, “see me see wahala ooo… abi this man is impotent ni?”… “my day was just there I said and walk to my room with so much anger.
Days passed and I tried all I could to attract him. But none of them worked. It was like I was sexually invisible. He dint even notice me.so I decided to close the chapter.
One morning, Kenny came home with so much excitement. “Nike nike nike… come we need to celebrate”. “what are we celebrating oh”…I said. “I got the contract… they finally signed. I am now the new owner of that company I told you about”. “wooooow”… I screamed. “that’s great news, tell me all about it”… I said. “you know I told you they are having issues, the managering director mrs shade adeniyi lost her husband i a car crush and had to relocate to the states. I heard that the real owner got missing some months ago so the legal partners had no choice but to sell the company to settle debts”. “ shade shade shade”… the name clicked….no…. I fainted.